…….I have found David the son of Jesse, a man after mine own heart, which shall fulfill all my will.
Praise The Lord. I thank God for what He is doing in our lives. The instructions He gives us are to be cherished forever, glory to God. We are still in the subject of sex and talking about what a woman should look for in a Christian man. Last week we looked at traits such as, humility, being reachable, and honesty. The later is so important that if a person is not honest in courtship he will not change. If he is not born again, he will not be when you marry him. Sister, be aware therefore if he is not honest at this time, he will get worse after he marries you. You cannot “speak faith” on him. Let’s look at other traits.
Selfless: The Bible speaks specifically to husbands when it tells them to love their wives as they love their own bodies, just like Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25-28). A Christian boyfriend should begin to exhibit this kind of care and love for his girlfriend long before marriage. Love is easy in the romantic beginning stages, but a Christian boyfriend should be the kind of man whose behavior and intentions will be loving in all kinds of circumstances (1 John 3:18).
Able and willing to work: Does he have a job or can he keep one? Does he keep changing jobs and flats? Is he stable?
The Bible says that a man who doesn’t provide for his family is worse than an infidel (unbeliever). (1 Timothy 5:8).
Provision doesn’t necessarily mean “bringing in a lot of money.” The issue is whether he takes responsibility for the welfare of his wife and children. It is important for women to grasp the seriousness of this verse. A man who doesn’t want or is “unable” to provide is very hard for a woman to respect, and if a wife struggles to respect her husband, marital troubles will go beyond the material.
A woman’s respect for her husband and a man’s love for his wife are interdependent and life-giving to a marriage (Ephesians 5:25-32).
Willing to proactively protect: Both physically and emotionally, women tend to be weaker and more easily hurt than men. They need to be understood and protected and cared for in a proactive way. A good Christian boyfriend is a man who will look out for and care for his girlfriend and carry this passion for protecting her on into marriage.
1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Other things to look for will be availed in your SPREADING THE LIGHT BULLETIN next watch out for it…. its powerful. Till then, You are blessed and highly favored. We love you.
ITS IMPORTANT TO BELONG SOMEWHERE. WORSHIP TEAM, GREETERS, USHERS, HOSPITALITY, HOUSES OF JOY (CELL GROUP) ETC. IF YOU DO NOT BELONG, MAKE SURE YOU DO. JOIN A CELL GROUP NEAR YOU AND GROW SPIRITUALLY