…….I have found David the son of Jesse, a man after mine own heart, which shall fulfill all my will.
Anybody can say they love Jesus or that they’re a Christian. Notice the words in our theme scripture, “a man after mine own heart,” not after a religion, denomination or a certain Christian dogma. But how do you know, when you’re falling in love with someone, whether he is the real deal? The Bible doesn’t mention the kind of dating relationships we see today; in fact, the only romantic relationships portrayed in our society are either marriage relationships or adulterous relationships. What this means is that a Christian boyfriend should be, first and foremost, a man you plan to marry, or at least someone who would make a good Christian husband.
A Christian woman should be looking for someone who is serious about God and serious about his relationship with her. A Christian boyfriend isn’t dating just for fun; he has marriage in mind, and is not interested in a quick sexual gratification. He is a gentleman, and a man of a strong character. He avoids circumstances that would lead to sin against his God. “Test drive” devalues the woman and hurts future relationship. Remember, if he sleeps with you out of wedlock, he can sleep with any other woman under the same condition. Why then does it happen anyway? Because people set themselves up, being in a compromising situation.
The Bible is full of verses that describe what a Christian man should be like, verses that are helpful and trustworthy for a woman who is evaluating a potential husband. The following are some guidelines based on those verses. A Christian boyfriend should be: Humble and teachable: The Bible tells us that a righteous man, or a wise man, will take instruction gladly, even when it hurts him (Psalm 141:5; Proverbs 9:9; 12:15). A righteous man evidences a willingness to be corrected by Scripture and a tendency to love and listen to those who can teach him from the Scripture.
Honest: Do his actions agree with his words? Is he a man of his word? The Bible says that a righteous man is characterized by honesty in his personal and business dealings,
Ephesians 4:28. Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labor, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.
In addition, when he makes a promise, a Christian man keeps his promise, even when it hurts (Psalm 15:2-5). In short, his character should be one of integrity. We will look at additional traits in your SPREADING THE LIGHT BULLETIN next week. You are blessed, we love you.
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